How To Deal With A Negative Partner

Last updated on December 6, 2019

Even if you are the poster child of positivity who is always brimming with joie de vivre, living with a grouchy partner who refuses to see the brighter side of life can be a huge dampener. So, how do you deal with someone who is super-negative and cribs about everything all the time. We have some pointers for you.

Don’t take it personally

A person often has a negative worldview because of certain life experiences he may have had. It could stem from things like a fear of the future, fear of ridicule or fear of losing control. Recognising that your man’s negativity has nothing to do with you, will help you deal with it better. For instance, choose not to be affected by his pessimism or criticism and continue to do what you think is best for you and your life.

Don’t get dragged into the morass

Sometimes strong negative vibes can be more infectious that positivity. Living with a person who is extremely pessimistic can make you believe that the sky is, indeed, going to fall on your head! Don’t get caught up in his dim worldview. Socialise with regular, happy people and have a life outside your relationship to remind yourself that life isn’t all that bleak.

Try to be a positive influence on his life

Help your partner overcome his negativity by engaging him in interesting activities and encouraging him to experiment with new experiences. However, above all, be patient, because in all likelihood he is going to crib his way through all the lovely things that you plan out for him! Soldier on and some of your cheerfulness if bound to rub off on him. And if everything fails, suggest therapy, if he is open to it.

Curb your enthusiasm!

You never thought we’d say this, did you? But it’s true. Bombarding your partner with exhausting cheerfulness and positivity can be counterproductive especially if he is suffering from latent mental illnesses like depression. Do consider if what you perceive to be your partner’s negativity is truly that or just a personality trait of a quiet, somewhat introvert person. Give your partner some space to enjoy life at his own pace and, on your part, try to figure out where his negativity stems from.