Had a little squabble with your SO and unsure of how to cross the bridge? Fights and disagreements are a part of every relationship. However, you must be mindful of things to let go and things to bring to the communication front. There could be several things that you may be doing unconsciously, but your relationship sometimes falls in the line of fire for them. We bring you a list of things that you should not do to avoid having difference of opinions with your SO.
Lose your individuality
In a relationship, it always takes two to tango. We often mould our selves to please our partners, and shared interests make things flow well. However, while it is important to be accomodating, losing oneself and identity in any relationship is not the way to go. Be yourself and do not try to be like your partner. It’s okay if you like green and he likes red; opposites attract remember? Moreover, nobody wants to have a minion of oneself unlike Blair Waldorf, do we?
Comparing kills
This deadliest weapon that can crash any healthy-going relationship is drawing comparisons. Looking at someone else’s relationship and comparing it with yours is not going to help you grow or help your partner change in any way. Let each other be and make room for the both of you to allow making mistakes as every person has their own pace and own space! Remember, the grass is always greener on the other side.
Prioritising your partner over everything
Are you someone who keeps your partner and their needs above all else? You may need to rethink that. While it’s good to give importance your partner, but losing yourself into it, isn’t advisable. It may unconsciously lead to your partner taking you for granted. It’s important to understand both of you are equals in all aspects of relationship. Working on it will give you opportunities for self-love and realising your self-worth.
Don’t take your partner for granted
This can’t be said enough – never take your partner for granted! Not only in your romantic relationship, but also in other relationships. Taking each other for granted will hinder your bond, understanding and the love you have for each other. You stop taking out time for each other, assume certain things on your own on their behalf, and sometimes overthink as a result of that. No matter how long you have been in a relationship, it needs a constant push of efforts, time and love.
Belittling your partner
If you want your relationship to be smooth, stay miles away from this practice. Belittling your partner is a big no-no! Be supportive and accepting of your SO, and let go of your judgements, if any. Ensure you are by their side always and be there for your partner come what may. Constant nagging, criticising and wanting things to go your way all the time will make your partner feel insufficient.
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